"If you are going to die your own death, you might as well live your own life".
Whenever we try to please other people, we make their feelings more important than our own. If we postpone our own pleasure and always put others first, even if we think we are doing so out of love, we end up disappointed in their response to us.
Somehow it's never enough when we try to please others, for us or for them.
We end up expecting too much. And this leads to resentment.
And soon life loses its pleasure, becos' we depend on other people to make us happy and we don't believe anyone truly can.
No one will ever knows how to please us the way we know how to please ourselves.
